“Proactive bonding is a mindset. You actively look for the common goal between yourself and the other person or team. This helps eliminate any built-in adversarial filter you bring to a meeting or project. It stops that inner-dialogue of tribal seeking. The brain is looking for tribal behavior: you’re like my tribe or you’re different from my tribe. ~Daniel Goleman

From the Article:  Resist the “Us” vs. “Them” Mindset